This practice began in the 15th century and was limited to nobility or those of great wealth. In Victorian times, the hyphenated, or what is also called the double-barreled surname, became more popular and gradually the practice has moved from upper-crust Brits to anyone. In modern-day America and much of the English-speaking western world, the choice to hyphenate has less to do with the bourgeoise as it is a declaration of equality.
But think of it this way: hyphenating both partners' last names can be incredibly meaningful for a woman whose traditional family has no sons to carry on their last name. You may choose to hyphenate your name no matter which gender you identify with or whom you are marrying, as no law or rule prevents you from doing so.
For example, both Mary White and Lauren Holland will hyphenate their names when they wed. The only decision is which surname sounds better before the hyphen and which should come after. If you're debating whether or not to hyphenate your last name, considering these pros and cons may help:.
If you decide that hyphenating your last name is the right choice for you, here are some tips to be aware of:.
Some states require you to write your new hyphenated name on your marriage license application. This application becomes the legal marriage document after the wedding. If you don't get this right, you may have to spend time and money petitioning the courts for a legal name change after the marriage. You have to change bank accounts, credit cards, insurance policies, medical coverage, driver's licenses, loans, property, car and boat registration, identification cards, legal documents, agencies and organizations, passport, and Social Security card—among others.
For questions regarding your new last name, make sure to inquire with airlines and cruise ships, the marriage bureau, TSA, and U. Immigration before you depart. If they use one name or the other, offer a polite correction and a warm smile.
If your children are using your new name, check-in with their school teachers, dentist and doctor's offices, etc. Your Privacy Rights. To change or withdraw your consent choices for Brides. My dad died when I was 20 and I became the last Rogers in our line.
But I also really wanted to honour my husband and his family by taking their name. It seemed like the right thing to do. So, I made the dubious decision to hyphenate.
Everyone I knew made bug eyes at me when I told them, but I ignored them and changed my name legally. You can thank me later. There are never enough tiny squares. And should you put the hyphen in its own square or try to squeeze it between two squares?! So stressful. Also, it takes bloody ages to fill in all those letters.
I used to love filling out forms I know, I was super-nerdy , but now I dread it. Well, I do. I hyphenated. Although my choice not to fully take my husband's name isn't the most common route to go, by no means was my decision trail-blazing. The practice actually started in when women's rights activist Lucy Stone changed her married name back to her birth name -- and keeping one's last name has obviously grown in popularity since then, peaking in the '90s.
But hyphenating your last name is a different entity altogether. It was a wildly popular trend in the U. People will just choose one of your last names. Well, if only I had known that before I spent a red tape-rife day at the city courthouse in order to go from Nicole Fabian to Nicole Fabian-Weber! The truth is: Having a hyphenated last name kind of sucks. Yes, it's a mouthful and annoying to say , but, every time I utter my first and last name, it's as if I'm the first person ever to walk into said place of business with a double last name.
To be honest, I usually just wind up saying, "Nicole Fabian," which kind of defeats the purpose of having it in the first place.
Unless, of course, insurance is involved, in which case Nicole Weber doesn't have the insurance that Nicole Fabian-Weber does, so it took a mini heart attack and phone calls to resolve the issue.
Not fun. And not the first time I found myself in such a situation. A mom with a hyphenated last name often doesn't want to give her kids one too because a , it's a personal choice, and b , what if they want to hyphenate their own names when or if they get married? A triple hyphenate?
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